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Discover True Intimacy in Marriage + online marriage ACADEMY

Why an Intensive?

Is an intensive right for your marriage?

Intensives hold a special place in our hearts because we went through one to restore our own marriage. We wanted fast healing and were willing to put in the effort it required. Intensives can seem like "drinking from a fire hose" – they provide foundational truths and rapid healing. They're for couples who are ready to go all-in!

Before the intensive, each spouse does individual work to establish a relationship with your coaches, Travis and Adelle. We're here to support your marriage restoration and freedom in life. All our teachings are biblically-based and work with any marriage in any season of life. We incorporate physical exercises and activities with powerful teachings that transform the mind through experiential learning.

For marriages struggling with hurt, resentment or betrayal, we highly recommend the intensive package. The pain and hurt run deep, but with our methods, couples experience incredible breakthroughs that are lasting and transformational. As one of our clients said, "It's like we have a brand new marriage."

We remember the same feeling from our experience.

If you're considering an intensive for your marriage, we recommend booking a free marriage assessment above to chat with us about how we can best support you. Click "schedule" below, and we look forward to serving your marriage.

Our intensives are an all-inclusive experience that includes:

A warm, peaceful environment in our home, with a private floor for your bedroom and bathroom
All meals, drinks, and snacks provided during your stay (please let us know in advance about any dietary restrictions)
17 transformational sessions with coaching
Experiential learning methods that will help you transform your life and mind

We are your hosts during your stay and are here to take excellent care of your needs.

Marriage Intensive Options

Each package is tailored to each individual couple according to their specific needs. The pricing is subject to change after specifics are addressed.

The intensive experience

A detailed view of what you will discover

Your intensive experience is tailored to your specific needs. Prior to the intensive, each spouse is required to attend five individual coaching sessions, with a total of ten sessions. These sessions are vital in preparing you for the intensive and ensuring its success.

Please note that both spouses must be fully committed during these sessions for us to move forward with the intensive.

The 5 individual pre-coaching sessions content

(laying the groundwork for the intensive)

1. Tell us your story to help us understand the factors that have brought you to where you are now. We also understand the negative impact of keeping secrets, and will work with you to reveal and address any issues that need to be addressed before moving forward in your coaching journey.

2. The 4 tires of life. In this video, we help you assess your current position in the four key areas of life, and explore ways to nourish and strengthen yourself in each of these areas to become a more complete and fulfilled individual.

3. Personal Vision. Having clarity around what you are committed to in your life and how clarity around this supports your big picture. You will discover what IS your purpose in life. When you have clarity & purpose, this fuels the mind to be more creative for endless possibilities for you and your life.

4. The internal vortex: This refers to the unresolved emotional and psychological issues from your past that continue to affect you in the present. We call these "Thorns". Through coaching, you will discover how to identify and address these 'thorns' on your own, without needing anyone else to enter the picture.

5. The 20/80 rule is a POWERFUL life tool. This tool will help you conquer triggers, PTSD, intrusive thoughts and emotions that plague our minds and hearts. This tool brings freedom!

Intensive sessions

Each Intensive is tailored to the individual couple according to the package chosen. The 3 day intensive covers all the content below.

Discovering Thorns

In this conversation we are discussing the following…

Fear is the root of all problems, and we learn to fear even though we were born to love.
Fear arises from the part of ourselves that feels out of control when facing life's challenges.
Strategies to deal with fear when it emerges.
Fear can cause energy blockages that prevent our hearts from opening and receiving love, leading to health issues.
Discovering the root of our fear and how it shapes our lives, particularly in close relationships.
Revisiting the 20/80 rule and how it can be applied to our thorn.
Every thorn has a false story attached to it, and we will explore how to separate ourselves from these stories and let them go for good.

Inner roommate

1In this conversation, we'll be exploring the concept of the "inner roommate" and how it affects our lives.

Our minds are incredibly active - we have an average of 45,000 to 65,000 thoughts per day. This constant stream of thoughts can influence our mood, behavior, and beliefs.
Our brains are wired to find meaning in everything around us. This can be helpful, but it can also lead to overthinking and anxiety.
Our early experiences have a profound impact on our thought patterns and beliefs. What we see and hear during our formative years (ages 0-7) can shape how we view ourselves, others, and the world.
We often identify with our thoughts and try to control our environment to feel safe and secure. However, this can lead to feelings of frustration and disappointment when things don't go as planned.
The 20/80 rule is a powerful tool for shifting our focus from believing that every single thought we have is real and factual. We teach techniques for uncollapsing these thoughts and seeing things in a broader perspective, enabling us to discern what is true.
Sometimes, we alter our perception of reality as a means of protecting ourselves from uncomfortable or painful experiences. This can take the form of denial, rationalization, or other defense mechanisms.

By understanding the role of our "inner roommate" and how it influences our thoughts and actions, we can develop greater self-awareness and make more conscious choices in our lives.

6 Levels of intimacy

In this conversation, we'll explore the six levels of intimacy, or communication, in marriage. It's essential to understand each level and where your current conversations fall, as this will set the foundation for all future discussions in this course.

We'll also discuss how emotional walls are formed and the importance of feeling safe in your relationship to be able to share with one another. Having this emotional safety is vital to the health of your relationship, as well as the relationships of those around you.

Creating Emotional safety

In this conversation, we'll explore how to create a safe and supportive environment as a couple, allowing both partners to feel comfortable sharing their thoughts, emotions, and feelings without fear of being shut down.

We'll discuss practical strategies for becoming an emotionally safe spouse, such as active listening, empathy, and vulnerability. By cultivating emotional safety in your relationship, you can deepen your connection, strengthen your trust, and create a foundation for a fulfilling and lasting partnership.

Vicious Vortex of Death

In this conversation, we'll delve into the concept of thorns in our hearts and how they can create a Vicious Vortex of Death in our relationships, ultimately preventing us from experiencing true intimacy in our marriages. We'll explore how protecting these thorns (fears) can keep our hearts closed, keeping love out and making us vulnerable to attacks from the enemy. When our hearts are injured, it becomes challenging to have complete intimacy in any relationship.

We'll also discover that it's not external circumstances, events, or other people that make us miserable; it's our thoughts about those things that cause us to suffer. By recognizing our own Vicious Vortex Cycle in our marriages and how others around us can trigger this cycle, we can begin to break free from its grip.

We'll also tie in the insights from our previous conversation about how the body sensations we feel can provide us with the key to freedom from this Vortex. You'll gain practical strategies for identifying and managing your own thorns, opening your heart, and cultivating a deeper level of intimacy with your partner. By working together to break the cycle of the Vicious Vortex of Death, you can create a more loving, connected, and fulfilling marriage.

The H.O.T. cycle

In this conversation, you will learn about the H.O.T. cycle and discover the following:

We will discuss what it means to be H.O.T., and how taking a pause during conversation can help you take care of your heart. You will also learn about the key ingredient to intimacy and oneness.

We will explore why our hearts may close toward people we love and how to reopen your heart to your spouse. We will also discuss codependency in marriage and what it means to be whole and complete.

Additionally, we will talk about how to care for your own heart when you feel unsafe in conversation and how gratitude plays a huge part in our lives.

Discover true forgiveness

In this conversation, we'll explore the power of true forgiveness and how it can bring healing and wholeness to yourself and your relationship with your spouse.

Together, we'll discover what true forgiveness really means, and how it can free you from the burden of resentment and anger. We'll explore practical steps you can take to cultivate forgiveness in your heart, and how to extend that forgiveness to your spouse.

You'll also learn how forgiveness can help you to move forward in your relationship and create a more loving and fulfilling future together. So, join us for this important conversation on discovering true forgiveness!

The H.O.T. conversation

Get ready for a conversation that will transform your relationship!

Join us for The H.O.T. Conversation, where we'll share practical tips for honoring your spouse as a beloved child of Christ. We'll also show you how to navigate tricky subjects and come back to level 6 communication, no matter what.

Plus, you'll learn the 4 key ingredients to effective communication and how to create a winners circle where everyone wins. Don't miss out on this chance to strengthen your marriage and deepen your love!"

Rebuilding Trust

Are you ready to rebuild trust and strengthen your marriage? It all starts with integrity – not just with your spouse, but with yourself. That's right: a new marriage can't be built on secrets or dishonesty. But what does it mean to have integrity, and how can you start practicing it in your daily life? Join us as we explore these vital questions and share practical tips for living with authenticity and openness. Whether you're looking to repair a breach of trust or simply deepen your connection, this conversation is a must-watch.

Marriage vision

Marriage is a beautiful journey, but it can also be challenging at times. That's why having a shared vision for your future together is crucial. In this conversation, we'll explore why every marriage needs a clear vision, and how it can transform your relationship in powerful ways.

Firstly, having clarity around where you're headed as a couple is essential. When you have a shared vision for your marriage, you can make decisions that support your common goals and values. It provides a roadmap for your relationship, guiding you through life's ups and downs and helping you stay focused on what truly matters.

But it's not just about having a destination in mind; it's also about knowing your purpose as a couple. What are you passionate about? What are your shared values? When you have a clear sense of purpose, you'll be more motivated to work together to achieve your dreams.

When you have clarity and purpose, it fuels the mind to be more creative. You'll find yourselves brainstorming new ideas and solutions together, creating a sense of teamwork and collaboration. And when both partners approach the relationship with an open heart, it fuels passion and deepens emotional intimacy. Being vulnerable with your spouse can be scary, but it's essential for a healthy and fulfilling marriage.

When all of these elements are present, you'll find yourself showing up differently in your everyday actions. You'll be more committed to your shared goals and more intentional in your interactions with your partner. You'll find that your relationship becomes stronger and more fulfilling, as you work towards a common goal together.

Having a vision for your marriage is a powerful way to create a strong foundation for your relationship. It provides clarity, purpose, and passion, all of which are essential for a happy and fulfilling marriage. So take the time to talk with your spouse about your shared goals and dreams, and create a vision for your future together. Your marriage will thrive as a result!

H.O.T. Sex- Physical intimacy and Gods plan for oneness

Let's talk about something that can be uncomfortable to discuss but is essential for a healthy marriage- physical intimacy. When both partners feel safe and open with each other, it can lead to a level of intimacy that is beyond just physical.

However, if either spouse has a closed heart, physical intimacy can be limited. We'll explore how God designed men and women differently and how these differences impact sexual intimacy. We'll also talk about what most women specifically need when it comes to emotional and sexual intimacy.

Did you know that research shows that 83% of wives feel that their husbands don't understand their need for emotional intimacy? Similarly, 83% of husbands report that their wives don't understand their need for sexual intimacy. This highlights the importance of communication and understanding each other's needs in the bedroom.

In this conversation, we'll share best practices and pitfalls to avoid when it comes to physical intimacy. It's essential to create a safe and comfortable environment for both partners, and communication is key. We'll explore ways to foster emotional and physical intimacy that deepens your connection as a couple.

Physical intimacy is an essential part of a healthy marriage, but it takes effort and communication to create an environment where both partners can feel safe and open. Understanding each other's needs and preferences is crucial, and there are best practices to follow and pitfalls to avoid. So let's dive in and explore how we can create a more fulfilling physical relationship in our marriages.